The Human Element

We are social creatures. We are genetically wired to be social. It is how we learn and, more importantly, it is how we come to accept our imperfections and humanity.

Psychologists say that group therapy is more effective than individual therapy.
The 12-Step programs get that. The dynamics of the group allow us to expose the chinks in our armor safely and confidentially. Also, when we share what we've learn with others in a group, the lesson seems to "stick" with us. Perhaps because we are more accountable, and a measure of self esteem is gained through seeing ourselves as a role model.

The adage "We are only as sick as our secrets," is proven time and time again with the cartharsis that occurs after exposing our dark side. As we unburden our souls with the moldy secrets and shame we have been hiding, we literally "come clean" spirtually, we lighten up. It is much the same way we feel after placing our wet damp feet by the light of the fire.

When we admit what we've been hiding, we can see clearly and are able to integrate it into oursleves in a more healthy way. My admitting that I have a gambling problem and am compulsive doesn't make it go away. But by bringing it to light and putting it front of me, I am able to respect it, even embrace it. Because like the herpes virus, it isn't going away which means I have to find a way of accepting it.

If you want to know something, teach it. If you want to know if the new tender shoots of your sobriety are taking hold, then share what you have learned. Learning is defined as "a change in behaviour." Reinforce your new behaviour by sharing it with others.